James's Notebook

                                              In my previous post titled dealing with grief I discussed how I overcame the feeling of grief which has many different causes but mostly loss. In this post I will explain how do I overcome the feeling of loss. For starters the most challenging aspect of overcoming this feeling is to first understand that loss is a part of life, and it can happen for a variety of reasons. Sometimes it could be very easy to blame something for the loss but in reality this doesn't help because the more I blame that something the harder it is for me to move on. The way I work around this is by using that loss to push me forwards and make more goals for myself that I could accomplish. The next thing that I do is to try to think about all the great memories I had with the individual who had unfortunately passed on. After that I wil...

               A challenge that I believe that we all face in life is dealing with grief , this can come from a variety of causes. But the most common causes for me could be from, the loss of a loved one, the breaking off from a relationship, not being able to accomplish a goal or by dealing with rejection. This is challenging for me because I sometimes feel stuck when I'm dealing with grief. But the way that I have learned to overcome this issue is to first understand that everything happens for a reason, and being upset about these sorts events will not change anything. I learned that if I stay upset about something that has happened in the past I tend to get more upset about it rather than less. The next step I usually take is to do exercise which usually helps take my mind off of the subject. I learned that if I do things that I enjoy I overcome this feeling a lot faster. Sometimes I feel that I would want to be alone because of the ...

                  In my previous post titled "why it is important to make goals" I briefly discussed learning from failures and/or mistakes when I make my goals and I end up not succeeding. But The way that I have overcame this challenge is to first understand that it is ok to fail and that I need to give myself permission to make mistakes, by doing this I gain an understanding of the concept of "nobody is perfect" including myself. Then I take my time asking myself not "what went wrong" but "what could I do differently, how can I learn from this and what could I do to improve". by asking myself these three questions I take away the fear of from the failures or mistakes I've made and I look at each of them in a way that I could learn from. To conclude this I learn from failure by giving myself permission to make mistakes, then asking myself questions that could help me be able to learn to benefit from learning from my past failures which...