James's Notebook

                In my previous post I briefly discussed asking for help as a way to help me not get stuck on negative experiences. In this post I will discuss both the importance of asking for help, how to ask for it and who to ask it from. The first thing that I need to do is recognize when it is appropriate to ask for it and the best time to ask for help is usually when I am really stuck on something that is complex to me, or when I need someone else's outside perspective on the subject matter. Following this I ask a trusted family member or professional for their ideas and their perspective on the situation in a way that has humility. Following this I will take the time to listen to what they say and what their thoughts are then take that at face value. Last but not least I will take the time to reflect on what they said to learn how to better myself. therefore by recognizing when I need help I take the time to listen and take the adv...

           A challenge that I believe that we all deal with is getting stuck from negative experiences in our lives, in this post I will discuss how do I move on from them. The first step that I take is to forgive, both myself  for not having the foresight to recognize what the cause of the issue was and the person that caused the issue, I learned that if I forgive myself and the person I begin to move forwards much faster and I discussed this skills necessity in an old post titled the importance of forgiveness. The next step that I take is to find ways that I can approach the issue in a different way and ask the question "how could I do things better", now this could apply to many things whether it would be at work, school or any number of things. The last step that helps me not get stuck is asking for help if I need it which really can make a difference in seeing how could I  handle the situation differently and how I can see it as a whole. Ther...