James's Notebook

                In my previous post I discussed how I move forwards from negative experiences and I briefly talked about not being a victim, in this post I will discuss how I do this. The first thing that I noticed is that after I dealt with a negative experience is to first take the time to recognize how I felt about the situation I'm in this helps me recognize what I feel toward this as opposed of assuming what's wrong. following this step I take the time to ask myself what could I do differently which helps me figure out what can I do next as opposed of being stuck from that experience, I realized that by asking this question "what could I do better" I tend to move on from what happened a lot faster and if I don't ask that question I won't be able to push forwards in life. The last step I take to not become a victim is to ask for help now this help can come from a variety of people it could come from my family, friends  or from a prof...

           A challenge that I believe we all face is moving forwards from negative experiences, what makes this very challenging for me is that they could have affected me at a personal level. But the way that I have overcame this issue is to first understand that what happened in the past is in the past now and worrying about what happened back then won't help me move forward. The next step I take is to learn from the negative experience to try to see what I can do to better myself. The last step that I take to move on from this is to understand that the reason why these things happen is that they just do, but I should remember that if I become a victim of these experiences I won't learn from them and I will not be able to move on. Therefore by understanding that what happened in the past is staying in the past I can begin the process of learning from the negative experience to better myself and by remembering that these situations occur because of any num...