James's Notebook

    One of the things  that I value is lifelong learning, this was challenging for me because I had a very hard time with learning from mistakes. The way that I became a lifelong learner was by first understanding that I am not in any way perfect, and that sometimes learning a new skill can be very frustrating for me because it takes me longer than I want to get the result that I want. Instead of focusing on whether I succeed or fail I focus on the process of how I can learn from the experience. Then I will learn by looking back on the results I had and ask questions like "what could I do differently and how could that help me?" so that I could figure out what new method or approach could help me overcome new challenges in life.

      A challenge that I have had face in life is dealing with change, this can be challenging for me because I have noticed that change can be scary and it can be very sudden. I have dealt with this challenge by first reducing my fear of it by first identifying what am I afraid of  during the process of change. Then I will start to try to think about what is good about change as apposed of what is the negative. if I am still frightened about the change I will normally ask am I really afraid of the change itself or am I just afraid of the outcome and if the answer is the outcome I will tell myself that the result is the result and that I don't have to worry about what happens in the future because if I worry about the future I wont be able to live in the now.

         In an old post of mine titled "Dealing With Bullies" I discussed how I dealt with people that are bullies in this post I will discuss how I prevent them from having power over me. In my life I have learned that a bully will try to harm me physically or emotionally. When a person like this is trying to harm me emotionally I believe that they usually do this because they have challenges of their own and that they do not know how to deal with them so they try to put their problems on other people. When they do this I always try to remember that its not my job to fix their issues and that it is my duty to live my life and find new ways to grow and mature as a person. now if a bully tries to harm me physically I will use my martial arts skills to defend myself and tell a person of authority and ask them for help with the issue.