James's Notebook

               Following the subject of dealing with toxic friends, I will discuss how I move forward from these types of people. The way that I move forward from a toxic person is to first forgive that person so that I could begin the process of moving on from them, as I have explained in an old post titled The Importance Of Forgiveness. The next step I need focus on is the actions of what that individual did that was toxic or put me at risk by doing this I could recognize a pattern of what they did to prevent more toxic people from getting involved with me. Following this I will spend time with close family members and friends or make on new goals for myself that I can focus on and appreciate the positive influences that are in my life as apposed of the negative ones. Upon following these actions I will be able to move forward from the negative relationships that I had with a toxic person and I will be able to dedicate myself to what is imp...

                     a challenge that I have recently had to deal with is dealing with toxic friendships, this is challenging for me because some of these friends could appear that they are decent people at first glance or maybe I knew them for a while and they became toxic over time. The way I have dealt with this challenge is to first identify their character by their words and actions as I have stated in my previous post titled Identifying Character In A Person. Some of traits that I have noticed in a toxic person is that they could act flakey, they are always in a negative mood, they could act as if I am are their therapist, they could shift the blame around, or they could try to drag me into their problems and put me at risk. If a person displays most of those traits I distance myself from that individual, then I take the time to focus on what's important to me. I do this so that I can focus on me and identify the things t...